The Post. Precisely what I expected it to be!
The Post. Precisely what I expected it to be!
Resentment might start with a wrong that’s done to you, but harboring it in silence is a wrong you do to others.
Alone time is a gift many people don’t feel comfortable asking for, and not having it when needed is a common cause of stage sighing and other put-upon theatrics.
Carolyn Hax: A quick trip from travel mode to grump mode – The Washington Post
Despite all this talk about how we eat everything and like everything, we are not willing to pay for everything at the same rate, and that tells you something.
Instead of getting a glimpse into the new economy, I was getting full exposure to the burdens of the old economy — specifically, how hard it is for regular working people to make it from their home or apartment to a job every day.
Listen for follow-up questions, because when those dry up, that means your companion’s interest usually has, too.
I also think if you’ve got writer’s block, you don’t have writer’s block. You have reporter’s block. You only are having trouble writing because you don’t actually yet know what you’re trying to say, and that usually means you don’t have enough information. That’s the signal to walk away from the keyboard, think about what it is that you don’t really know yet, and go do that reporting.
My father was really, really the author of my particular personality. He gave me a million different pieces of advice, but one that comes up all the time is: Anything that can be fixed with money isn’t worth crying over.
The New Yorker’s Susan Orlean on the magic and mystery of writing
Mapped: How hard it is to get across U.S. cities using only bike lanes – The Washington Post.
We’d never build a street grid that looks like this and expect drivers to navigate the city through it.
Key Takeaway #1: Students sit all day, and sitting is exhausting.
Key Takeaway #2: High school students are sitting passively and listening during approximately 90 percent of their classes.
Key takeaway #3: You feel a little bit like a nuisance all day long.
Teacher spends two days as a student and is shocked at what she learns
Any time you’re trying to explain something based on what broad categories of people do, it’s time to stop, back up, stick to the facts at hand, and ask yourself why you’re reaching so far to get a more appealing answer.
Seafood: The choice is yours – The Washington Post. Validating my love of sardines, anchovies, and sweet, sweet herring. (via)
It’s so easy not to realize you’re under someone else’s influence. When we tell ourselves something, it’s always in our own voice, so it naturally seems like our idea. (Though we can often hear the influence when we say things aloud to others.)
Carolyn Hax tumbles are going to become a regular feature here. On the dangers of storytelling:
My advice is to discard whatever narrative you’re tempted to superimpose on yourself, your boyfriend, your relationship and whatever else, and just live by the reality you have in hand. That means recognizing that your partner is a temptation-wrestler or birthday-forgetter or stress-eater or emotion-bottler or whatever other trait just isn’t going away, no matter how much better life would be if it did. And it means choosing to stay with someone only if you can see these things as the price of a life that suits you well, not as temporary obstacles to some imaginary better life.
Does cheater deserve a second chance? – Carolyn Hax – The Washington Post
It’s hard to discuss the budget realistically if you ignore most of what the budget does. […] We need to ask how much today’s programs constitute a genuine “safety net” to protect the vulnerable (which is good) and how much they simply subsidize retirees’ private pleasures.
Why are we in this debt fix? It’s the elderly, stupid. – The Washington Post
Breaking down the Situation Room – The Washington Post.
So the sequence is this: We have less power than they do, and they have less power than reality. The photographer creates a kind of “V” of sightlines to emphasize this drama: We look in from one angle as they look out at another, almost a perfect mirror image.
Odds are good that you primarily know one sort of person: highly educated, high-achieving, extremely cerebral, etc. Odds are also good that you give too much weight to feedback and ideas from this sort of person, while discounting arguments and complaints from people who don’t know the right way to persuade you. Try to keep that in mind.
“Palmer’s book underscores the fundamental challenge of wildlife filmmaking: Nature is frequently boring. Wild animals prefer not to be seen.” Fascinating. We’ve been faking the natural world for the sake of narrative and/or efficiency and/or profit. See also.
Wildlife filmmaker Chris Palmer shows that animals are often set up to succeed